Here's another from a guest blogger, this one Lynn Durham, RN, Well Being Coach, whom I met just the other night! Lynn is focused on wellness as an adjunct professor, columnist, speaker, author, consultant and personal coach. You can learn more about her at www.lynndurham.com.
want the best for our children. What is something to give them as tools for
life? How about teaching the 3 R’s of resilience – relax, reflect, and respond?
the stress response is elicited there are a number of negative things that
happen physically in the body. We can change what happens by changing our
thoughts and our words and actions in the moment.
When the stress response is elicited there are a number of negative things that happen physically in the body. We can change what happens by changing our thoughts and our words and actions in the moment.
We have a choice. We get to determine the thoughts we’ll
hold, when we’ll speak, what we’ll say and how we’ll act.
The Harvard Deaconess Mind Body Medical Institute has
researched the relationship between exposure to a relaxation response
curriculum and academic achievement using the four measures of grade point
average, work habits, cooperation and attendance. “Students who had more than
two exposures to semester long classes in which teachers had been trained in
the relaxation response curriculum had higher grade point averages, work habits
scores and cooperation scores than students who have two or fewer exposures.” www.mbmi.org is a resource for programs and
tapes for children, some in Spanish.
For relaxation: I’ve had my children listen to relaxation
tapes and experience how it feels as they consciously let go and calm down.
I’ve led guided visualizations in schools. Children enjoy using their
imaginations. Learning to take slow, deep breaths is a very important technique
for being more peaceful.
Children can choose AND they watch and learn from you. Do
you Relax into the moment? Do you Reflect on what is most kind
and respectful? Do you choose to Respond (Take responsibility for your
thoughts words and actions as opposed to blaming others) or are you a
reactor on automatic (with a mushroom cloud?) pretending that others are the
cause of how you live your life?
Resources are abundant, get a coach, take a workshop, buy
a tape and practice new skills. It’s important for your health - physical,
mental, emotional and spiritual. And …your children are watching you.
Practice the 3 R’s of resilience for you. Teach it to your children. Relax, reflect and respond. It’s a gift for yourself, for your children and all those you touch.